“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” ~Thomas A. Edison
Recently, someone I’m coaching messaged me and said, “I fell off the (Primitive Eating) wagon. I need a motivational speech. Can you help me out?” What I said to him is what I would say to anyone, “When you fall off the wagon, any wagon, get back on.” That’s it. That wagon is going where you want to go. And, here’s the good news, it’s not going very fast so, you’ll catch up.
In case you were wondering, the wagon is not a Radio Flyer. It is actually a horse drawn wagon. Originally, it was a horse drawn cart, a water cart to be exact. If you were “on the wagon” it was because you chose to drink the water it was carrying around and not booze. To fall off meant you were drinking again. Today, the “wagon” applies to any restriction we put on ourselves like eating a certain way, or to stop drinking or smoking.
I like to imagine the wagon as one of those that the American settlers used to travel west in the 1800s. That wagon took it’s traveler to a new life, in new territory, at a slow and steady pace. If one of those travelers were to fall off, they could literally get up, dust themselves off and get back on, assured that they were still en route to their destination.
“What did I do?! I’m a terrible person! I ate a doughnut.”
If the solution to falling off the wagon is that easy, there is absolutely no reason to get down on yourself when it happens. Whatever it is you did to fall off, is not that big of a deal. In fact, you’re probably going to do it again. So, just get back on and don’t be such a drama queen. Oh, and none of this, “I’ll wait until Monday” crap! Get back on, ASAP.
You are destined to fall off and there’s a good reason for this. This entire society is filled with people who don’t want you to get better. They don’t want you to improve. They don’t want you to lose weight. They don’t want you to get healthy. They don’t want you to NOT buy their products. You’re surrounded with advertisements that consist of pictures of delicious looking, addictive food. Pictures of lean, apparently healthy, people eating this crap with a pretty smile and great white teeth. They’re all perfect and happy and they’re eating eating, drinking, and smoking whatever they want. When you are constantly surrounded with all this content, it makes and impression on your subconscious. Your subconscious is being trained but not by you.
Your not the only one being negatively influenced. It’s happening to the rest of the world too. Unfortunately, this means that not only do you have to deal with the constant barrage of advertisements, but you also have to fight off the negative influence of your friends and family who have also been influenced by the media. Not only that, misery loves company. Some of them don’t want you to lose weight and get healthy because they themselves are overweight or unhealthy. I know someone who’s decision to get divorced pissed of her brother. Why? Because he was in a crap marriage and wanted out. His words to her were something the effect of, “If I have to be married and miserable, then so do you!”
Granted, there are exceptions and these are the people you want to spend time with. You want to be around healthy people, if you’re trying to get healthy. You want to be around sober people if you are trying to get sober. You want to be around like minded people. You want to be around people that will hold you on that wagon or will pick you up and put you back on it when you fall. You don’t want to be around people that will push you off it.
The odds are stacked against you in this world when it comes to self improvement, especially with being overweight or getting healthy. No wonder you’re gonna fall off. Know two things when it comes to your certain goals, know you’ll fall off and know you’ll get back on.